I’ve been compiling a list, discussed by most of my friends that are already married and present to you a list especially for anyone contemplating marriage, that will increase the chance of living happily ever after:
– My uncle used to say during his teachings, ” Don’t marry the person you think you can live with. Marry the one you can’t live without.”
There’s great truth in this advice. Marriage can be difficult even when two people are passionately in love with one another, but it is murder when they don’t even have that foundation to build on.
– Don’t marry someone who has characteristics that you feel are intolerable.
You may plan to change him or her in the future, but that probably won’t happen. Behavior runs in deep channels that were cut during early childhood, and it is very difficult to alter them. Enough said.
– Do not marry impulsively!
I can think of no better way to mess up your life than to leap into this critical decision without careful thought and prayer. Remember, the dating relationship is designed to conceal information, not reveal it. Both partners put on their best faces for the one they seek to attract. They guard secrets that might be a turn-off. Therefore, many newlyweds get a big surprise during the first year of married life. I suggest that you take at least a year to get beyond the facade and into the inner character of the person.
– Don’t get married too young.
Those who wed between 16 and 20 years of age are twice as likely to divorce as couples who wait until their 20s. Making it as a family requires some characteristics that come with maturity, such as selflessness, stability and self-control. It’s best to wait for their arrival.
– Finally, the ultimate secret of lifelong love is this: the stability of marriage is a by-product of an iron-willed determination to make it work.
If you choose to marry, enter into that issue with the resolution to remain committed to each other for life. Never threaten to leave your spouse during angry moments. Don’t allow yourself to consider even the possibility of divorce. Calling it quits must not become an option for those who want to go the distance!
Hope the above list goes a long way for those singles to enjoy a great future life ahead together with their loved ones.