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Why do fathers dotes on their daughters ?

What I am about to share with you are my careful observations over the last 10-plus years about women and the impact their fathers have on their lives. I don’t have university-approved research to validate my points, but I think you will find that they ring true nonetheless.

Observation #1: A female who is raised by an emotionally connected, strong father usually marries someone just like her dad. Why? The first man that woman learned to love was her father. The first man who believed in her was her father. Any man who does not measure up to those standards has very little chance.

Observation #2: A female who is raised without a father or strong male role model will often attract weak, spineless men who have been mothered to death. Why? She was likely raised by a strong, independent mother who passed on these survivor traits to her children. She will grow up trusting men only to a point and will experience power struggles in her relationships.

Observation #3: A female who is not validated or affirmed by her father will typically struggle with self-esteem issues and always wonder, ?Why didn’t Daddy believe in me?”

She will jump from relationship to relationship and job to job. Why? She is looking for love and acceptance in all the wrong faces and places. There is a part of her that feels she just is not good enough. She can be healed from this lack of love only by doing the deep inner work that will enable her to be whole again.

Observation #4: A female who has been sexually abused by a male figure while she was growing up will often become very promiscuous or struggle with intimacy with men. Although she may not realise it, in the back of her mind, she is always thinking that men will take something from her that she does not want to give. She wears a mask to hide her true, vulnerable self and has a difficult time establishing relationships with others.

Observation #5: A female who is raised by a father who spends time with her, believes in her, tells her that she is beautiful, and teaches her how to take care of herself will grow up to be self-sufficient, confident and resilient. She is authentic and has the courage to accomplish anything she sets her mind to.