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Definition of love

This entry is actually a reply for my brother’s question on his weblog. Initially I had wanted to just put it in his comment but seeing that my comment was so long, I decided to just put it up here instead.

I believe that the word love itself mean different things to different people. It is like defining beauty. There is no one definition that everyone will accept.

I think the word “love” is used a lot simply because some people don’t know any other way to express pleasure or even extreme liking. They may say “I love chocolate” simply because saying “I like chocolate” doesn’t define the amount of joy they get out of eating it. Love is a word people understand better.

Our emotions are far more complex than we give them credit for. We tend to try to oversimplify them, and put them into nice, neat packages, that we think we understand, probably because we DON’T understand them. Maybe we never will.

For me, the love (of a person), is when their happiness/well-being is more important to me than my own happiness.

Even though we are human, love makes us feel like we can fly. It makes us happy. We are like birds that can’t fly. Yet we try to anyway. We know it may cause pain and sorrow, but it always has its price. There’s is always that hope of flying. Because when we are up there falling, all we can hear is the wind blazing past our ears, and nothing more. No worry. No pain. No sorrow. Nothing.

It may not last and it may cost us our lives in the end, but it is worth it.

122 replies on “Definition of love”

ooooo cinta ohhh cinta…hehehe
yes i strongly agree when u say “the love (of a person), is when their happiness/well-being is more important to me than my own happiness.”
it makes me more happier and that’s what more meaningful to me.
hehe long time arr this Monggel’s mum never comment here in your blog.
anyway nice new layout.its fresh!!

i got frustrated whenever i failed to understand my zauj.but after reading ur “men’s catergory” i think im getting hold of it.. its the same right on how u men try to understand we women..heh..

gd job abg..more post abt this in future helps ur sister( me la hor) widen up the brain..heee

Love is a key happiness of the following:

(1) VALID HAPPINESS (including love, sense of beauty, symbiosis (good conscience, upholding justice, moral couraging, helping others, teaching…) bravery, etc.) must be the feeling of things being a step better for our propagation.
(2) WELL-BEING is the ongoing feeling of things going well step by step for our propagation.
(3) VALID SUFFERING must be the feeling of things being harmful to our propagation and calling us to prevent or rectify it.
(4) SOUL (including: personality, inspiration, etc.) is the computation results of both our instinct and pre-instinct data-programs in our brain.
(5) LIFE GOAL is to propagate.

All these are our instincts (ancestors’ successful experiences saved on DNA).


Very thorough definition there bro and I gotta agree with some of them, if not all.

In essence, I think that love is vital is every aspect of our daily life.

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